Marriage Counseling and Couples Therapy in Oklahoma and California
Whether you're married or navigating any other kind of committed relationship, I'm here to help you both move toward more harmony, communicating with more kindness and effectiveness, making real structural changes to the patterns you keep repeating, and facing hard decisions together in a space that feels safe for both of you.
Who This Is For
This page covers both marriage counseling and couples therapy, because the work itself often overlaps. If you're married and looking to strengthen or repair your relationship, this is for you. If you're in any other kind of committed partnership working through the same kinds of conflict, communication breakdowns, or disconnection, this is for you too.
Common Areas We Work On
- Rebuilding trust and communication after infidelity
- Breaking cycles of conflict and maladaptive relational patterns
- Navigating a partner's substance use
- Re-establishing shared values and goals
- Deepening attachment, intimate connection, and sexual satisfaction
- Understanding a partner's mental health diagnosis and building coping skills together
- Managing in-laws and extended family
- Pre-marital counseling, for couples building a foundation before the wedding
- Setting boundaries
- Working through parenting disagreements
- Managing medical or fertility issues, or preparing for parenthood
Why These Patterns Repeat
The same disagreement keeps happening because it's usually not really about the dishes, or the schedule, or whatever the surface issue is this week. Couples tend to get stuck in patterns that formed long before the relationship started, in each partner's own history, and those patterns show up most strongly with the person you're closest to. Once you can both see the pattern instead of just reacting to it, it becomes something you can work with together instead of something that keeps working against you.
My Approach
I use great sensitivity in understanding what each of you sees as the problem and what solutions you each want to create, drawing on structural and relational tools alongside the same holistic, transpersonal lens I bring to individual work, because how you show up in your relationship is rarely separate from your own history and patterns.
What to Expect
Sessions typically include both partners together, though I may occasionally meet individually as part of the process. We'll start by understanding what's actually happening beneath the conflict, then build toward the specific changes you both want to make.
What Becomes Possible
Couples who do this work often find they can disagree without it turning into a fight, or repair much faster when it does. Old resentments stop being the backdrop to every conversation. You start to feel like a team again, even when you don't agree, because you understand what's actually driving each other's reactions instead of just reacting back.
Frequently Asked Questions
Do you see us together or separately?
Mostly together. That's where the real work happens, though individual sessions sometimes support the process.
What if only one of us is willing to come to therapy right now?
That's still worth a conversation. Individual therapy can be a starting point while the other person considers joining.
Is this only for married couples?
No, "marriage counseling" and "couples therapy" describe overlapping work, and I work with any committed partnership, not just legally married couples.
Do you offer this online for both Oklahoma and California?
Yes, as long as both partners are physically located in Oklahoma or California during the session.
What does couples or marriage counseling cost?
Couples and family sessions are $200. I also offer a free 15-minute phone consultation if you'd like to talk through your situation before booking a first session.
Is what we share in session confidential?
Yes, with the standard legal exceptions around safety that apply to any licensed therapist. If we ever meet individually as part of the process, I'll always be upfront with you both about how that's handled before it comes up.